Long Weekend

I am often amazed at how much we packed into one weekend and this long weekend was no exception...took the kids on a long hike, attended a party with them, took them on an out of town day trip that lasted all day, met friends at the park, visited another friend who is close to having her first child, etc. i even started working on getting the swamp cooler going.The kids had decent behavior comparatively. They did great on the car ride on the out of town day trip. Bickering throughout the weekend but nothing crazy.

My husband on the other hand...

Apparently he is getting these headaches that he thinks are migraines. He has not had these in the past. I want to be sympathetic, but I am just out of sympathy. The headaches, oddly, seem to show up when it is time for him to watch the kids. The latest was yesterday when he was supposed to come at 5:30. I got a text at 3 saying he had a headache and was going to try and nap it away. Did not hear from him again until 7:30 when he called to say he just woke up and was on his way. I am out of sympathy and out of trust.

My husband was not the only issue...the day trip out of town was to visit a friend who had been camping. She had invited us to camp but I had not committed because another friend had also invited us to camp and I was not sure that we were going to make it to either because we had a baby shower Saturday late afternoon. Also it is hard to know where the kids will be at emotionally and do I really want to be camping with them. Particularly if my husband is willing to take them here and there so I take a break.

Anyway, I had texted the friend that we would try and come either saturday evening or Sunday for the day. Since she was already camping she did not get my message (no cell signal). When we fousd their campsite, they were off hiking which was totally cool. Because I had not committed to anything I had no expectations. Frankly I was surprised we found the place. When they returned from their hike, we all hung out. Another friend showed up too. Cool. Then my friend wanted to tell me what was bothering her. She was frustrated because she did not know if we were coming and she wants us to come and if we come she wants to do X Y and Z for us and wants to be there waiting but she cannot do that if she does not know we are coming. I appreciate where she is coming from but I don't want to commit unless I am 100%. Which is hard to be right now. On the flip side, I don't expect her to be there waiting. I  don't expect her to feed me. I asked her if it was better to just say no, I am not coming. She said yes it was. Her husband interjected he did not think that was always the case. Poor guy has seen her drive off a lot of friends. She is very dominating. X

She later said something about how she spends a lot of energy trying to come up with ways to help me. I want to tell her to please stop. There is not much she can do but listen. But she is causing me more stress with all of her plans and efforts. I appreciate it, I do. It is sort of like it is just too much. 

Some of the comments she made show she is insulted that I commit to birthday parties but not three day camping trips, but a birthday party is only a few hours!