January 23rd Part 2

Okay, so we left off with my husband thinking that heck, since he had already left without notice, he may as well see this as his opportunity to experience working out of town.

Huh.

I comment (in response to his saying he had not planned to be out of our lives) that he had moved an awful lot of stuff out. I mean, if a place is to remain your home base, and you currently have no place to go, do you move out your records? Or your stuffed Pooh Bear that you slept with as a baby? With all that stuff moved out, it makes one think this was pre-planned and/or there is a girlfriend in the picture.

I get no response to whether or not this was pre-planned or there is a girlfriend.

Instead he says he has been thinking for awhile to spend some time at his dad's house.

My first thought to that was, hmmm, that is good. But then I thought: Your dad lives in Atlanta. We do not live in Atlanta. In fact it is a 22 hour drive. What about work?

So I ask about that.

He says he has some vacation time saved (of course he does, because he never wanted to travel with the kids) and maybe he will even find work there.

Seriously?

Last I heard, the job market is, well, lousy. My father-in-law lives about 50 miles outside of Atlanta in a suburb with nothing. I suppose that Walmart is an option. They do have one. Not that the job he has here is amazing.  He works 30 hours per week. Well let me take that back. He is paid for 30 but works 50 to avoid the kids. So he is going to quit his job, move to Atlanta, live in a remote suburb and start job hunting? I can probably pull off covering all expenses, but this is unbelievable. You know what? My brother lives in Atlanta and I think I am just going to take a break from life for awhile. I will just up and quit my job! Leave the kids at home. That will work. Someone will watch them and pay for them. No worries!

Seriously?

So I bring this up. He says he can get a job there and stay awhile.

I point out that there is the issue of how I will pay for the afterschool program while he is not earning an income.

He comments that he is not good for anyone if he is just around for a paycheck but is a jerk otherwise.

While I see his point, his just up and disappearing and not contributing is absurd.

And would his dad even take him in if he is abandoning his family??

This goes on. I finally call him out on his behavior. How he is not thinking about how what he has done and is doing is effecting us.

He then throws out that he has been looking into ways to try and kill himself.

Nothing stops laying it all out there like mention of being suicidal.

So I back off. I try to encourage him check himself in to a hospital. I offer to take him. He says he is not in immediate danger.

By this point a friend has arrived.

Still no word on whether my friend in labor has given birth. I am worried about her.

I don't get much sleep