Oh Boy...

Today I met "Jacob".  We had been emailing one another for several months and were finally able to meet. He is a nursing student who is working and in school full time. I knew from our emails that we were on the same page with a lot of things. I had sort of given up on him though, because after a few weeks of regular emails his communication became sporadic. It could have been the end of the summer semester and the chaos that went along with it. Or maybe he had met someone. Regardless, i put him out of my mind.

We met at a coffee shop for lunch. He actually looked a lot like his pictures, which should not be shocking but is....tall. Not as skinny as he appeared in photos but in a good way. Not scrawny. From our emails and his commenting he had a hard time meeting people, I anticipated he would be shy. I was right and had to make a lot of the first efforts toward conversation. Somehow he must have gotten more comfortable because we talked for three hours! He is a handsome man, with a kind of intense look on his face. But when he smiles...his smile lights up his whole face. He is extremely handsome when he smiles!

We talked about many things...his classes, the sorry state of the healthcare system, what led him to go back to school, the obsession folks have with money, our kids, our relationships, how our relationships ended, our feelings about our relationships, our 20's and our lack of deep friendships in our 20's, gender roles, our careers....So interesting...he decided to go back to school for a more meaningful career as he was a car technician. He made great money but was not happy. He was willing to cook and clean and grocery shop while his ex worked but she was not happy with this arrangement. We never know the truth of peoples past so I take it all with a grain of salt. But I would happily take that arrangement.

I admit I really liked him.  I am attracted to him physically but it is the emotional connection that makes me so interested. It was by far the best conversation I have had since embarking on this adventure. And did not need a margarita to have it. 

I hope he liked me. He is definitely shy. When we were leaving I told him we should get together
again and to let me know when he would be free. We will see if he follows up.