Finally was able to sit down with my ex and nail down some of the details. He had not been at all forthcoming. So last night I asked the questions that one would (or should) consider important when considering quitting their job to take a temporary position and move across the country and leave your family. Questions like...how much the job will pay. Will you get benefits. What will your expenses be.
The great new opportunity involves a pay cut of three to five thousand annually. Which would not be a big deal except he is always complaining he has no money. He insists that there are many opportunities to freelance that will pay thousands of dollars apiece. I will believe that when I see it. He is not sure how much his rent will be but says it will be "cheap". No health insurance.
I wrote out his expenses. He should be paying $740 in child support. He pays for the after school program which is $480 per month. I included the $480 in his expenses. With all of his bills and the $480 he has $150 for food. Nothing to cover the $260 in additional child support. And for the last two days he has been insisting he will send extra for babysitting. Really? How?
I brought up that the plane flight between our city and the city to where he is going is a good five hours. It would take a day of travel. And a day to return. So while he promises visits every 4-6 weeks, will they be for 24 hours? No answer. And they would be paid for by the money he plans to earn at the freelance jobs. Huh.
What was amazing was how unconcerned he appeared considering what he is doing. I feel duped. Like I never really knew him.
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